Sexy Sunday 108

Summer Glau

Summer Glau was born in San Antonio Texas in 1981. As a child she spent her time dancing Ballet. She appeared in a few television shows and appeared on the TV series Angel as a ballerina. This led to her appearance in Firefly, Cold Case, Sleepover, CSI, The Unit and Tess Doerner. She also stars in the Sci-fi flick Mammoth. In 2007 she got the role of Cameron Phillips in the popular Terminator series.

Become More Healthy Tips 51-60

51. If you want to eat a frozen entree stay away from the hungry man dinners they are filled with fat, salt and high in calories. Try to go for the many selections of Lean Cuisine, or Weight Watcher selections.

52. Instead of having a fat filled breakfast of sausage and bacon scramble up some eggs in a non-stick skillet and serve with a side of asparagus and whole wheat toast.

53. Steam some frozen vegetables and sprinkle with some garlic powder and top with some nuts.

54. Make a healthy salad. Top with 1/2 can of tuna which is full of protein and add a few slices of tomatoes and top with light dressing.

55. Instead of packing your sandwich full of meat fill it with lettuce, tomatoes and sprouts to give it more substance without all the calories.

56. If you want a quick lunch have a broth based soup with some vegetables.

57. In the morning have a high fibre breakfast cereal with skim milk and top it with some fresh fruit.

58. Instead of ordering a foot long sub order a 6” and pick one of the leaner subs and top with tons of vegetables.

59. If you want a sweet treat for lunch take some pre-cut fruit and mix it with some low fat yogurt.

60. Don’t make excuses that it’s ok to overeat just because it is the holidays. That only opens the door for you to overeat for weeks.

Emotional Infidelity in a Relationship: What is Emotional Cheating?

People define cheating differently. Some people define it as an emotional act as well as a physical act and others just define it as a physical act.
That topic alone can cause some issues in a relationship if both parties define cheating differently.

So, in order to eliminate obstacles that may later come into play it’s always best to make certain you know how the other person in the relationship defines something like that.

Although it’s not pertinent that couples are exactly alike, there are obviously some important areas in a relationship which help uplift it rather than hinder it. And this type of topic can be one of those things.

Truthfully, I believe that it’s difficult to keep the romance alive and a relationship on a positive note if you’re unable to work in unity with your spouse. Especially if one of you defines cheating in one way and the other defines cheating in another way.

Usually, physical cheating is what we all refer to as cheating. It’s a general consensus, so it’s emotional cheating that can be the real culprit behind ruining a great relationship.

So we’ll talk a bit about that today.

What Exactly is Emotional Cheating?

Well there are different levels of emotional cheating, but let’s discuss the most significant forms of emotional cheating…

1) Lying by Omission

Some women consider cheating to be a secret that is kept from them. For instance, their spouse has a dinner date with another woman, but doesn’t bother to mention it.

Whether this situation is considered cheating depends on the relationship you have with your partner and the type of friendships you have outside of your partnership.

Since the pendulum can swing either way it’s best to make certain you both see eye-to-eye before it ever happens (if it ever does). Maybe you don’t think it’s important to mention it because it doesn’t mean anything and mentioning it would give it more weight than it’s worth, but it’s best not to assume something like that but to talk it over instead.

The reason for that is because, on the contrary, some women feel that if it was so unimportant, then why not just mention it. It’s a catch-22 situation. So, a constructive way to handle a circumstance like that it to discuss it with one another before it ever has a chance to occur.

2) The “Roaming Eye”

When I speak of the “roaming eye” I mean visual disrespect to your partner. Acknowledging someone’s beauty is one thing, but the “roaming eye” is a much more intense act.

It’s beyond acknowledgement. In a situation like that, fantasy creeps in and your partner feels mistreated or upset due to the act of disregarding her and making it clear you would like to have sex with the person in your sights.

Under those conditions, it can turn into a huge problem for the relationship. Of course, it’s one thing to notice someone’s beauty from time to time, but the “roaming eye” is another thing altogether. It can lead to insecurity issues, trust issues, and sometimes result in actual physical cheating.

So exactly what is the “roaming eye?”

Although I couldn’t possibly mention everything, let’s talk about the more obvious actions…

The “roaming eye” constitutes going to strip clubs, ogling women in the street, and commenting can also be a part of the issue in which verbal insinuations are made concerning what you would like to do with that person. Taken too far, it can be emotionally abusive to your partner and result in a destructive relationship that could eventually lead you both in separate directions.

So, a constructive way to handle this situation on a personal basis, is to treat any woman like you would want someone to treat your wife, sister, mother, or any other female that you regard with the highest respect.

Of course, it isn’t always going to work because you’re human, but it’s a good place to start.

By asking yourself, “How do I want other men to treat my partner?” can help you change the entire way you see things.

For example, someone ogling your wife in a disrespectful way is most likely something you would not take kindly to. Perhaps you’d even be infuriated if you witnessed it happening. So, if you apply those feelings to a woman who catches your eye, it makes it somewhat easier to want to treat that person with a lot more respect.

After all she is someone else’s relative. Obviously not yours, but someone’s.

3) Physical Contact

This type of emotional cheating occurs when you go to strip clubs and receive lap dances or some other similar type of contact from the opposite sex.

As a man, you may not consider this as cheating, but your partner may. As a result, this induces conflict in the relationship in which your partner feels betrayed and you feel as if you didn’t do anything wrong.

If this does occur, a constructive way to handle this is to put yourself in your partner’s shoes or put your partner in the stripper’s shoes.

For example, would you want her in a male strip club receiving lap dances? Or would you want your wife in front of other men stripping and giving other men lap dances?

Chances are good the answer is “no.” If you reverse the situation, it’s easy enough to look at it constructively so that the two of you can work on resolving the issue by basing it on the old saying, “treat others the way you want (your wife) to be treated.”

Be objective, be honest, and most of all… be fair. Work hard at trying not to give yourself extra privileges you wouldn’t give your spouse. Make it your responsibility to be considerate to other women just as you would want another man to be considerate to your wife.

You’re no exception to the rule.

Work Together in Unity

Since this issue is such a big one, it’s important to sit down with one another and discuss why it’s happening if you aren’t in agreement about your actions, because a great relationship is built on unity between a man and woman and if there isn’t any unity… it will lead to a lot of problems.

As a man, some of the distraction you’re fighting against is biological which is often due to visual stimuli which you can’t help. But that doesn’t mean the promotion of that behavior is necessarily right. It’s one thing to have a natural response to something like that, but it’s another thing to use that natural response to benefit you in continuing on in that behavior.

An important thing to do is to make certain that excuses on either end aren’t being made. Excuses and denial don’t resolve anything. Serious situations like that require both parties to own up to their faults.

Pride should be left at the back door, so your relationship doesn’t take a beating because of it. Avoid treating it like a game of matching pride against pride.

To eliminate pride in the beginning, you may find it a good idea to talk about how you want to handle the discussion on each end before you bring up the conversation.

Consider saying something like…

“I wanted to talk to you about something, but before I bring it up, I thought maybe we could talk about how we want to handle this conversation, because I don’t want anything getting in the way of us resolving it. I know sometimes I can be stubborn, so I feel it’s important for me to say that when we discuss this I don’t plan on allowing that to interfere with us fixing this situation.”

When confronting it like that, it allows the problem to take the forefront so that when you do end up discussing it, it makes it easier for you both to stay focused on the topic at hand and keep it on a positive note.

You can then discuss it in layers by trying to explain why you do what you do (besides the obvious reasons) and she can explain how it makes her feel and then you can both focus on how to resolve the issue together–in unity.

It’s easy to feel that emotional cheating doesn’t hurt anyone, because in certain ways it can be defined as an invisible act, but don’t underestimate the damage that it can have on a relationship. It can do just as much damage as its lethal counterpart “physical cheating.”

Sure, there may not be any touching involved, but infidelity is not just a physical act. Remember, be objective, be honest, and most of all… be fair. You are no exception to the rule.

Work hard at being faithful to your partner in more ways than one–mind and body.

Protect Your Heart and Live to 100 Tips 41-50

41. Eat beans: Beans are full of fibre and folate which lowers homocysteine. People who consume 4 or more servings of beans a week cut their risk of developing heart disease by 22% compared to those who had one or less servings of beans.

42. Order takeout: Indian and Chinese takeout are full of heart healthy spices like garlic, tumeric and ginger. These spices are full of natural anti inflammatories.

43. Wash your hands: In a German study 570 people were followed for 3 years, those who had the most antibodies in their system also had the most clogging in the arteries of their hearts, necks and legs. Make sure you use liquid soap, bacteria can live on bar soap.

44. Read a good book: A Swiss study found that men who read poetry for at least 30 minutes a day reduced their stress levels and lowered the risk of heart disease. A good book would do the trick.

45. Use honey instead of sugar: Honey has antioxidants to help with cardiovascular disease. Sugar decreases your levels of good cholesterol and can lead to heart-related disorders.

46. Smile: People who have a positive attitude are less likely to develop heart problems later on.

47. Get a degree: People with degrees have a lower risk of heart disease then those who are less educated because they are able to move up the earnings ladder.

48. Play hard: Regular vigorous activity reduces your risk of cardiovascular disease. Benefits can be seen by doing vigorous activity for 5-10 minutes at a time.

49. Pee in the bushes: Holding in your urine results in your bladder becoming full. This can raise your heart rate 9 beats per minute and can constrict your blood flow by 19%. Either can cause a heart attack.

50. Use a rotisserie: Cooking foods at high temperatures which produce advance glycation which reduces cell elasticity and increases the risk of heart disease. To fix this steam your vegetables, keep your meat moist by adding a marinade and cook foods longer at a lower temperature.

7 Warning Signs That She is Not Interested in You Anymore

To break up a relationship is a harder decision when we talk about a long term one.

In most cases when woman is no longer interested in a relationship she doesn’t want to be the one to end it. But even when she is already made the decision to break it up, she will take some time to give you some signs to prepare you, before she tells you. If you feel that something is going wrong it is time to take a closer look at your relationship. Here are seven warning signs she is no longer interested:

1. This is probably the most classic subtle signal of all: her life become too hectic. She hasn’t picked up the phone for a few days and when she does, she is busy and pretending that she doesn’t have time to met you. This isn’t necessarily a sign that it is over, but if you are used to meet her frequently then there is something wrong.

2. Eventually, when she decided to spend some time with you she keeps looking around to find
something to do or someone else to talk to. However, when a woman is interested, she puts in
the effort by giving you her full attention.

3. She’s secretive and no longer wants to tell you where she has been or who was on the phone.

4. Don’t forget that women love to talk. If she doesn’t ask you questions and shows no interest in what you have to say and when you ask her questions she limits her answers to “yes” and “no”
she has a problem. Can it be the relationship with you?

5. Is she causing arguments over stupid little things? If nothing you do or say isn’t right anymore and all that goes wrong is your fault you can start to worry.

6. She refuses the presents you make. Women love to get presents, so if she turns yours down, she
can feel guilty because she is thinking to break up with you, especially if you know she was about
to buy that thing for herself.

7. She talks about divorce or break up of other people relationship, as a positive thing. Maybe a
friend of her just has braked up with her boyfriend and now she is doing much better.

In the game of romance, few things are black and white. Most of the points above are assumptions
based on commonly used techniques. There is room for interpretations and misunderstandings but all this can make you wonder if everything is ok and discuss the problems you might have.

Become More Healthy Tips 41-50

41. Watch out when snacking or grazing. You can easily eat 500-600 calories without realizing it.

42. Watch the pasta. Go for whole wheat pasta and watch your portion sizes. One serving of pasta is 1/2 cup many people eat 4 times that amount.

43. Stay away from bagels. They aren’t worth the calories and the toppings don’t help.  Eat a slice of whole wheat toast instead.

44. Don’t ignore the serving size on the package. I can’t stress enough how important this is. Take Kraft dinner for example. Once prepared it says a serving has 220 calories. Many people would assume that’s for the whole box, but really that is for 1/4 of the box and I highly doubt that all of you eat only 1/4 of the box. That means you have to take 220 and multiply it by 4. One box has a whopping 880 calories.

45. Don’t snack on nuts. Yes nuts are healthy granted you eat the right kinds but they have a high calorie and fat content. Instead of eating a bowl of them garnish them in your salad or toss a few into your oatmeal.

46. Don’t think that energy bars and smoothies are all healthy. Many are loaded with sugar and calories.

47. If you want a smoothie make one at home with skim milk, frozen fruit and wheat germ.

48. If you really must eat takeout. Look at the nutrition information online ahead of time. Pick out the lowest calorie burger and have a diet soda. Bring that home and eat it with a salad or some vegetables instead of ordering fries. This can save you up to 800 calories.

49. Instead of eating a chocolate bar or chips have a peanut butter sandwich on whole wheat bread with a cup of skim milk and an apple.

50. Instead of buying chicken strips make your own with lean chicken breast.

Why Women Cheat

Years ago a woman cheating on her spouse was unheard of but in modern times the number of women who cheat on their spouse is growing exponentially.  The differences in men and women cheating is that men often cheat for physical reasons while women often have emotional reasons for cheating on their partner.  The reasons why women cheat include loneliness, revenge, boredom and self-esteem.  These factors may be inexcusable but they do exist in the minds of a cheating woman.  More and more women are becoming guilty of cheating on their partners and it is often emotional reasons rather than lust that drive them to these affairs.

Loneliness is one of the primary reasons that women seek out affairs and cheat on their partner.  Although it sounds contradictory that they should feel lonely because the women are currently in a relationship, it is often a relationship that is not emotionally fulfilling.  Women involved in these unsatisfactory relationships may feel as lonely if not more so than women who are not in a relationship.  If a woman is not receiving the attention she feels she deserves in a relationship, she may be tempted to seek that attention elsewhere and become involved in an affair.  A partner who becomes overly involved with his work or a hobby may not make time to spend with his partner and this often results in the women feeling as if they are all alone.  This feeling of loneliness can drive a woman to cheat on her partner.  One of the most prevalent reasons why women cheat is that they feel as though their current partner is not lavishing much attention on them and they feel lonely even in his presence.

Revenge has also become and increasing factor in why women cheat.  The modern woman is no longer willing to sit back and accept the fact that their partner may cheat on them.  If a woman confirms or even just holds a suspicion that their partner is cheating on them, they may be driven to engage in an affair of their own as an act of revenge.  The theory of, “An eye for an eye,” has unfortunately trickled down into the realm of romantic relationships and many women see a cheating partner as a justification to have an affair of their own.  They believe that they are justified in having an affair if they catch their partner cheating on them.  Furthermore they may be extremely hurt by their partner’s actions and seek a way to hurt them in the same way.  While it is not a justifiable reason, many women see revenge as an appropriate reason for cheating on their spouse.

Boredom may also factor into why women cheat.  Their current relationship may have fallen into a rut and lost the excitement that it possessed in the early stages of its existence.  They may feel that their relationship has become dull and predictable and rather than trying to bring excitement into their current relationship they may pursue affairs in the hopes of achieving the excitement they felt when they first became involved with their partner.  While an affair may bring about a temporary solution of making the woman feel excited about love again it may ultimately destroy both their current relationship as well as their cheating relationship.  An affair is exciting not only because it involves a relationship with a new person but also because it involves sneaking around and ultimately getting away with doing something wrong.  To many women this is very exciting and they are willing to risk losing their relationship over their affair.  Many women cheat because they are bored with the monotony of their current relationship and they seek to bring excitement back into their life through engaging in an affair.

Another reason why women cheat is a lack of self-esteem.  Women may feel that they are not getting an adequate amount of admiration from their partner and they may be tempted to cheat to affirm that they are still attractive and desirable.  When a relationship meets a stagnant point where the partners are no longer making a conscious effort to reassure each other that they are still desirable, many women begin to feel insecure.  This insecurity leads women to seek affirmation of their desirability outside of the relationship in the form of an affair.  Being found desirable by another compensates for the lack of longing they feel from their partner and helps to boost their self-esteem.  While women with a healthy self-esteem are more apt to remain happy in a relationship, those that lack self-esteem are often driven to cheat on their partners.

Men are not the only ones who cheat on their partners.  It is becoming more and more common for women to be guilty of cheating.  While women are beginning to cheat as often as men the reasons why women cheat are much different from the reasons why men cheat.  The reasons for women cheating are tied tightly to emotional reasons such as loneliness, revenge and boredom.

Protect Your Heart and Live to 100 Tips 31-40

31. Schedule your flu shot: People who have vaccinated themselves against the flu have a 19% less chance of being hospitalized for heart disease then people who haven’t gotten their shots.

32: Drink water: When you drink five or more 8 ounce glasses of water daily you can lower your risk of heart disease for up to 60%.

33: Eat Grapefruit: By consuming as little as one a day you can reduce arterial narrowing by 46%, lower bad cholesterol levels by 10%, and drop your blood pressure by up to 5 points.

34: Eat garlic bread: Garlic is good for lowering cholesterol and fighting off infections. After having a heart attack or heart surgery consumption of garlic can help prevent further damage to your heart.

35: Top your toast: Pick healthy choices for your toast. Black currant jelly is an excellent source of quercetin a type of antioxidant that can help prevent the damage of arterial walls and prevent the build-up of radicals that allow plaque to build up.

36: Scramble your eggs: Eggs are a good source of betaine. Betaine helps lower homocysteine levels by up to 75%.

37: Get your chromium: You aren’t likely to get enough chromium through your diet so be sure to look for a chromium supplement labelled chromium picolinate its the one absorbed easiest by the body.

38: Do your crunches: A Canadian study found that the men who could do the most sit ups in a minute were the least likely to die in a period of 13 years. Having strong abdominal muscles means less belly fat which in turn lowers your risk of heart disease.

39: Don’t combine Ibuprofen with aspirin: A study conducted in Scotland found that heart patients who took both Ibuprofen and Aspirin were at 75% higher risk of premature death then those who take only Aspirin.

40: Pair up: Married men are less likely to die from heart disease then bachelors. Men who have been happily married for at least 3 years had healthier hearts then men who weren’t paired up.

Become More Healthy Tips 31-40

31. Spinach is healthy and low in calories. Add it as salad to your sandwiches, put it in your soups, add it to your heated pasta and place it in salads.

32. If you really hate cutting fruits and vegetables or don’t have the time spend the extra cash to get the pre-chopped or pre-bagged fruits and vegetables.

33. If you don’t enjoy vegetables try eating some fruit and switch it up a bit. You still need to be careful when eating fruit because you can still gain weight if you eat to much.

34. Buy several types of your favourite vegetables frozen so they last longer. You can get anything frozen; corn, carrots, spinach, mixed vegetables, Brussel sprouts etc.

35. When eating remember the best portion for high calorie foods is the smallest one and the best portion for vegetables is the biggest one.

36. If you want food but suspect you could be stressed or bored try to focus your attention elsewhere by reading a book or taking a stroll in the park.

37. If you are thinking about eating something that is unhealthy for you ask yourself if it’s really worth it and will you feel better after you eat it.

38. Remember things take time and your progress may be slower then you like, but it doesn’t mean you aren’t making progress.

39. Remember that it is more stressful being overweight then it is to stop overeating.

40. Don’t skip meals. You may think if you skip meals you can bank calories but skipping meals slows your metabolism and can lead to binges. If you know you are going to be indulging in a high calorie dinner then try to eat healthier throughout the day eat some fruit for breakfast with an egg white omelette and enjoy a garden salad for lunch. This way when dinner rolls around you won’t feel guilty and you won’t be starving.